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| Our little family about to be a big family. |
Lately I have been feeling a little sad and a little mad. Marriage and children are not for the faint of heart. Those of you who are married with kids know this. Many times two married people may not agree on any number of things. Our big issues generally are cleaning and how we communicate with each other. At least from my point of view! Now add in caring for a little person 24-7 and it's a recipe for stress, fights and a lot of fun all at the same time. I have to say that the last few months have been a little bit of all three for our family but things seem to be on the up swing as Mike and I are trying really hard to work on our communication skills. Some days are better than others.There have been times when I have wanted to walk away and not put in the work to make things better. But we persevere. As for parenting, well that's about to get a whole lot more interesting isn't it? Right now, I am the day to day disciplinarian and Daddy is the fun "other kid" most of the time. However, when Emma is really misbehaving Daddy puts the smack down on her and she knows she's in trouble. The terrible twos started for us when Emma turned 1 and are still going strong today! Oh my.
One thing has stuck in my mind a lot lately that has caused me to be sad and mad at the same time. Divorce. It's a word that I think I throw around a little to loosely sometimes and for that I am deeply sorry. Tom and Katie are divorcing- no shock there really. What Hollywood marriage doesn't end in divorce at some point? But there are a few couples in my real world who are going through either divorce or separation and it just makes me mad and sad. Sad because if they couldn't make it, what chance do the rest of us have? Mad because from the outside looking in it seems like they have been through so much how could they just give up? Now I don't know any of the inner workings of any of these marriages and have no right to feel anything about it at all but I do and it has lead to a lot of soul searching and prayers on my part. Prayers for them and prayers for my own marriage. That we always be there for each other, have patience with each other and forgive when hurtful words hit their mark. Every night I say this prayer because until now I have taken for granted how easy it is to hurt the one you love the most and I don't want that.
So for all of us who every day wake up beside the same person, perhaps with a little person wedged in between, I say this- be thankful, be appreciative and be grateful.
